Rejection hurts. And unfortunately, it’s a common occurrence for freelancers and business owners, especially for those in the creative world. We get rejected by potential clients; our design ideas get rejected; and we get rejected for new business opportunities. Have you ever thought you were a shoe-in with a new client, or created the “perfect” design only to get shot down? Yep, me too.
拒绝很痛。 不幸的是，这对于自由职业者和企业主来说是很常见的，尤其是对于那些在创意世界中的人。 我们被潜在客户拒绝； 我们的设计思想遭到拒绝； 我们被新的商业机会所拒绝。 您是否曾经以为自己是新客户的试穿鞋，还是创造了“完美”设计而只是被击倒了？ 是的，我也是。
Even if you are anticipating the rejection, it still never feels good. Human nature makes us want to succeed and be accepted, and being rejected is never something we look forward to or accept happily. As much as rejection stinks because it derails our carefully laid plans, deprives us of a much-desired new opportunity, and provides a solid hit to our egos, it does make us better at what we do, smarter and stronger. Here’s how:
即使您预计会遭到拒绝，也永远不会感觉良好。 人性使我们想要成功并被接受，而被拒绝从来都不是我们期待或高兴的事情。 拒绝会发臭，因为它破坏了我们精心制定的计划，剥夺了我们非常想要的新机会，并给我们的自尊心带来了坚实的打击，它确实使我们在做事上变得更好，更聪明，更强大。 这是如何做：
You learn something.
你学到一些东西。
Actually, you may learn a lot of things. Being rejected can teach you something about yourself, your work, your capabilities, your ability to communicate effectively, areas you need to improve, and how you deal with criticism. If it is a project-based rejection, you may also learn a great deal about the client and what they’re looking for. This information is a vital part of the design process, and it helps to think of it that way instead of as a personal rejection.
实际上，您可能会学到很多东西。 被拒绝会教给你一些关于你自己，你的工作，能力，有效沟通的能力，需要改进的地方以及如何应对批评的知识。 如果这是基于项目的拒绝，您可能还会学到很多有关客户及其需求的信息。 这些信息是设计过程中至关重要的部分，有助于以这种方式思考而不是个人拒绝。
The best type of rejection includes constructive criticism and feedback that will help you do it differently (and better) next time. Each potential client relationship and un-won proposal is a worthy practice in selling yourself and your abilities. The more you pitch yourself, whether you win the contracts or not, the better you will get at it, the more confident you will be, and the more success you will achieve over time.
最好的拒绝方式包括建设性的批评和反馈，这将帮助您下次做出不同的选择(更好)。 每个潜在的客户关系和未赢得的建议都是推销自己和能力的值得实践。 您投入的时间越多，无论您是否赢得合同，都将越能胜任，越有信心，随着时间的推移就可以获得更多的成功。
It puts things in perspective.
它使事情变得透视。
Most rejections are not personal. And most importantly, a rejection does not define who you are or how successful you are at what you do. A rejection simply means you’re not the right person at this time for a particular opportunity. In the big scheme of things, being rejected will mean very little, and it frees you up for other opportunities that may come along. Just like the saying goes, “When one door closes, another one opens.”
大多数拒绝都不是个人的。 最重要的是，拒绝并不能定义您是谁，或者您在做事上有多成功。 拒绝只是意味着您此时不适合特定机会。 在大局上，被拒绝意味着很小的事情，它使您腾出了其他可能出现的机会。 俗话说：“一扇门关上，另一扇门打开。”
It makes you hungrier.
它使您感到饥饿。
Getting rejected gives you an opportunity to start fresh with a clean slate, more determined to succeed the next time. Being told “no” can make us want to hear “yes” even more, which means we may work harder and focus more on the details in order to put ourselves in the best position possible for avoiding being rejected again. Not to mention, success is so much sweeter when it was preceded by a struggle, and rejection can make victory much more appreciated.
被拒绝让您有机会从头开始，重新开始，更有决心在下一次成功。 被告知“否”可以使我们想要更多地听到“是”，这意味着我们可能会更加努力地工作，将更多精力放在细节上，以使自己处于最佳状态，从而避免再次遭到拒绝。 更不用说，在进行斗争之前，成功比以往更加甜蜜，而拒绝可以使胜利更加受到赞赏。
What’s your silver lining when you face rejection?
当您面临拒绝时，您的一线希望是什么？
Image credit: Ali Farid
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翻译自: https://www.sitepoint.com/ouch-the-pain-of-rejection/
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